How to build a Strong Family?

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Have you ever thought about how you can build a strong family? Well, it's 100% needed. Your family is a social unit which has very powerful effects on your life. It plays a major role in terms of moulding up your attitudes, beliefs, opportunities, habits and personality traits. Family plays a critical role in determining who you become and what you accomplish. Your parents can definitely influence your beliefs and attitudes and they can be held responsible for shaping your personality to a larger extent. Family is important because it provides you with love, support and it can be a framework of values, where each of its members serves, teaches and shares the joys and sorrows of life. You have to follow the steps below to make a strong family relationship. 

Step 1: Collective Support: You have to build family in such a way that it offers collective support to the whole family. It should be the social unit of cooperation and collaboration. Cooperation is always the stepping stone for success. You get the primary knowledge of how to function in the World from your family. The collective support helps the members make it through life’s toughest spots. You are supposed to give your full attention and encourage all family members to share their thoughts and ideas. You have to be a good listener as well. Use 'WE' messages rather than 'I or YOU' messages when you talk. Everyone of your family is so special and everyone needs some special time with you as well. 

Step 2: Mutual respect: It's the tool to operate your family. Everyone is the part of pure consciousness in different bodies and everyone is coming from the same source. Everyone in your family definitely deserves respect, be it your kids or parents. It's the fact that all families have the conflicts which are the part of human relationship. You have to be able to work through the things your family members disagree about. Always focus on the problems rather than on tearing each other down. Find out an amicable solution for the problems through discussion. Be friendly to everyone including your kids and their friends. Remember that being friendly is the smartest thing you can do. 

Step 3: Something new always: Do something new always. The new little things you do really matter more. The new experiences flood the brain with Dopamine which is the feel-good chemical. It creates feelings of pleasure and reward, leaving you happy. Organize family picnics. A new food item you make or a smile or a touch, a new shared laugh, or a favor, or a reference to a happy event, or an expression of gratitude from your part matters more. It makes the ripple effect of happiness the whole day. Always find out time to laugh with your family. Never take the stress and strain from your work home. 

Step 4: Love: Spiritually speaking, family is the best possible means for an earthling to learn more about the lessons of cooperation, collaboration, mutual respect, love and service. All these are advanced qualities, an organism takes different birth cycles to understand fully. If you have built a family, that means that you are way more responsible. The lack of love in your life shows a missing lesson, for which, according to the natural law, you must be reincarnated to correct yourself. Even though family is your tool to get evolved so fast, the abuse of which can also make you negatively polarized easily. When you are a family person, what you need to do is do things with 100% service orientation with no expectations from anyone. Such a life necessitates your positive karma and evolution. Many earthlings stay stuck with karmic bondage, thereby perpetuating their repetitive cycle of reincarnation simply because of the fact that they keep their family relationships misused always. In other words, you get evolved or devolved in terms of how you run your family. The higher dimensional souls who take voluntary avatars on the Earth to uplift the humanity know about it much better. As a result, most of these evolved souls keep themselves away from building a family as they know that family means responsibility more and the neglect of which can keep them reincarnated. Some evolved souls tend to have same sex relationships to quench the carnal thirst when they are inside a body. You have to practice love and that is the most important step to strengthen your relationship. Love makes you get adjusted to the conflicting situations in life. Nowadays there is a high number of divorces all over the World. There is no question of even adjusting. The only victim is your child when you are divorced. Even though your child can be brought up singlehandedly, the void created by the other parent will always be out there. Things should be disclosed, discussed and decided together. Be frank all the time. Never impose your passion onto your kids. The Creation is always different even though everything is coming from the same source. Unity in diversity is the principle behind the Creation. Help your children or grandparents feel secure, loved and needed, which gives them confidence to explore their world. Give the old members of your family due respect and consideration. Geriatric care is very important and is your responsibility, the failure of which leaves you with negative karma. Practice love. This is how you have to build your family. The Pure love you have will be reflected by everybody else in your family, especially by your kids. This is how you can mould up your kids to be the contributors who can change the World in the future...